Why You need to STOP "SHOULDING" on yourself

Laughing is and always will be the best form of therapy

I am a big advocate of therapy, self-discovery and improving emotional health.

Over the years I have experienced how important acknowledging ALL of our emotions can be if we desire a lifestyle of authentic wholeness.

Many of us have been emotionally paralyzed because we grew up learning how we "SHOULD" feel and the big people in our lives had a message that specific emotions were not ok. After much self-exploration, I understand that it is typically in an effort to avoid the discomfort (of said emotion) that we criticize, shame or try and fix someone else. Unfortunately, this leads to resentment and a loss of intimacy in the relationship.

The thing is we also lose intimacy with ourselves when we "SHOULD" our emotions to death. We literally die when we lose the ability to feel because we become mere adaptations of our true selves and the fullness we could experience in life becomes stifled.

God says we can have an abundant life, but really how many of us are living that way? Choosing to embrace the good, bad & the ugly parts of ourselves leads to the road of transformation and healing with ourselves & others.

So whether today you feel like laughing, crying or screaming allow yourself an opportunity to learn because emotions can be our greatest teachers if we open up and listen to what they are telling us.